Last minute, my friends told me that they wanted to all go to Bali together to celebrate my friend’s upcoming wedding (yay!). These are the girls that I grew up with and navigated the world with. I’d already danced with them in Cuba, climbed volcanoes with them in Guatemala and got lost in Ethiopian cities with them – all when we were younger. Now that I’m a little older, when this opportunity presented itself, I struggled with whether I should go or not. I thought I shouldn’t spend the money, that I shouldn’t take another holiday, that I shouldn’t take time off work and that I shouldn’t enjoy a new destination without my husband. After all the shouldn’ts, I finally listened to what I really wanted…. What changed my mind?
1. Trips with JUST friends are rare gems.
When is the next time you’re going to be doing a group trip that was just you and your friends, like when you were growing up and were doing sleepovers? No partners, kids, lovers, work colleagues. Just you and your friends with no responsibilities where you can talk about whatever you want (including your partner because they’re not there). Nothing coming up, right? Life just gets in the way and at some point, we just start thinking about exploring the world with our partners instead of our friends and eventually settle for girls-night/boys-night but what about extending that fun for more than a night?
2. Hello baby, bye bye conversations….at least for a little while.
When your friends start having babies (like mine are), you’ll find that it’s harder to talk with them when there are babies in the same room. It’s not because you have nothing to talk about, it’s just the energy has shifted, temporarily. It’s kind of like when there’s a really cute puppy around and people just look at it or play with it and can’t talk about anything except the puppy. Anyone else know that feeling? I want to have as much “us” time as we can before life really moves forward for us because things do change when you start a family.
I have one of the biggest issues of FOMO (fear of missing out)! I know we’re all going to look back and reminisce about how fun this trip was when we’re 80 years old. I don’t want to be on the receiving end of the stories with “oh…it was SO funny….you had to be there”. Nope. That isn’t for me. I want to be PART of the memories and help create them. I don’t want to be seeing Instagram photos of Bali from my couch!
4. Friendships don’t last forever…
Unless you put the effort in. Yes, I agree that there are friends that you can go without talking for months (or years) and if you see each other again, it’s like no time has passed…but lasting and significant friendships are kind of a miracle so they need to be nurtured at some level. Luckily for me, that’s making the decision to go on this trip, fly for 60 hours, drink from fresh coconuts and jump into the beach with my friends!
There is something inexplicably beautiful about making a connection with someone and it continuing to grow over your lifetime…so invest in your friendships and help make ever-lasting memories!
When is the last time you went on a trip with just your friends sans partners?! Have you planned something? Do you miss some of your friends?